A Mate from God

We know that it is the Lord's will for people to have mate if they desire one. In the beginning when God created Adam, God Himself made this statement.

Genesis 2:18 – It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.

The Lord wants to bring a mate to those who will ask Him and have the patience to wait for His choice. There are some single people who are constantly looking for a mate and they are miserable because God has not sent them one yet. They have prayed and prayed yet they still have no mate.

Some start pondering and settle for Satan’s provision instead of asking God for the patience to wait for the one whom He would send. If they would look to Jesus & seek to please him, rather than being concerned about a mate, soon they will find the right one crossing their path.

Looking for a man or woman to just keep them from being lonely or just to fill their needs should not be the only reason for desiring a mate. It is important to be concerned about what kind of husband/wife they would be for a mate even before the relationship starts. They should ask Lord to fill them with His Love and Peace.

It might take some time before we really meet the correct mate as God may use our “singleness” to mold us into a better person before directing us to our other half. First the Lord would begin to use us to bless others; then we will find we are content in Him. Eventually, in God’s plan and timing, He will bless us with a wonderful mate so that both lives can be a witness for him. We should never enter into marriage or perhaps I should say enter into a relationship without much prayer.

If we allow the emotional & soulish realm to dominate our lives we become more susceptible to the enemy leading us astray through someone. So many have failed the Lord because they choose a man/woman over the Lord.
1. Solomon’s heathen wife led him into idolatry.
2. Samson lost his eyes because of a woman.
3. David committed murder and adultery because of passion for Bathsheba.

The true definition of love is “God is Love”. If God is not in a relationship, it is not true love. What the world calls love is really lust since it is built on what the other person does for me instead of what I can do for him/her. If the other person fails to keep up his end of the bargain, a divorce occurs because the offended mate is no longer pleased. This is the attitude of the world’s love.

God’s love is loves without receiving back (though this seems difficult to understand; in fact it is tough as we are just human)
God’s love if forgiving and patient.
God’s love is gentle and kind.
God’s love waits.
God’s love sacrifices.

Man’s emotions are not a reliable gauge upon which to establish a relationship. It is important to seek for character than emotion. Emotion fluctuate; character doesn’t. Emotion are in the soulish realm and unless the carnal mind has been renew, Satan can give us emotions or feeling of loves for someone of his choosing. “Falling” in love is Satan’s way. A Christian should not blindly “fall” into a trap. Love is bigger than simply falling for someone.

Certainly God gives us a wonderful emotional feeling for the one we are to marry. However, this “feeling” without God’s direction can be disastrous as Satan can tamper with our emotions and feelings too. Therefore, relationship or marriage should be based on a decision directed by the Holy Spirit.

Above all, thank God and seek God.